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On this page you will
find comments from readers whose
lives have been touched by Joe's
book.
An adoptive mother
from Arizona:
Joe Soll's
book, "Adoption Healing...a path
to recovery," allowed me for the
first time, to realize that as an
adoptive parent, I too need
healing. My pain, anger and all
the myriad emotions that I felt
through the years are just as real
as those of my adopted daughter.
"Adoption Healing" is written with
such tenderness, simplicity and
positiveness that it makes for
easy understanding and gives us
the step by step keys to the
healing process. Mr. Soll includes
exercises to help us through the
pain which is another plus. In
fact, this book helped me
understand my daughter's pain and
anger which I never understood
before. What a revelation that was
and this is part of what the
healing process entails. I
recommend this book for all those
who are adoptive parents or
prospective adoptive parents. For
me it was an answer to years of
prayer and for the first time I
see a light at the end of my
tunnel. YES THE HEALING HAS BEGUN.
A BIG THANK YOU TO JOE SOLL FOR
WRITING THIS BOOK.
An adopted woman from
New York:
"Adoption
Healing... a path to recovery" is
a book that deals with truth --
not the way people would prefer to
see it, but exactly the way it is.
Not only does it validate those
feelings of doubt, fear, anxiety,
and loss that so many adoptees and
birth mothers feel, but it gives
you ways and exercises to help you
deal with those feelings. I
strongly suggest that everyone
read it. IT WILL HELP YOU TO
UNDERSTAND YOURSELF, YOUR SISTER
OR BROTHER, YOUR CHILD, YOUR
PARTNER OR SPOUSE.
A birthmother from
Pennsylvania:
"Adoption Healing...a
path to recovery," more than
anything else gives HOPE to those
of us who have traveled the
adoption path, particularly
adoptees and birthparents. Having
been told in 1966 that by giving
up my infant son to be adopted by
people who could give him what I
could not...a two parent home, a
name, even legitimacy; I tried
hard to believe when they told me
I was doing the most loving thing
a mother could do for her child in
my circumstance. I was an 18 year
old student with no husband in
sight. I don't know if they really
believed when they said I would
get on with my life and I would
forget this whole unfortunate
experience and that I would go on
to have plenty of other children.
Joe Soll's book speaks to the fact
that THEY were really, really
WRONG! You never forget and you
really can't even totally get on
with your life on some levels.
Giving a child up for adoption is
a very deep trauma and tragedy for
a woman, and many can't even
survive it. It's a form of
soul-rape. While Joe gives
exercises, tools and rituals to
adoptees to understand their
experience and even begin to heal;
he also validates and acknowledges
the pain and deep sense of
grieving and loss the birthmothers
live with. And although I have
read several women authors who
have written very eloquently about
birthmother pain; this is the
first male author that I've read
who has deep understanding, wisdom
and empathy for US. My heart was
in my throat during much of this
book, but I also felt that
Adoption Healing should be
required reading for Adoptees and
Birthmothers, AND those who love
us. THIS IS AN EXCELLENT AND VERY
WELL WRITTEN BOOK.
An adopted woman from
Oregon:
I am thrilled someone
has finally written a book that
directly deals with self-help
treatment for the adopted person.
"Adoption Healing" explains the
psychological processes an adopted
person goes through in their life,
and the effect on him or her. It
then gives simple exercises to
help overcome the trauma of
adoption. Even in a loving
supportive adoptive family, the
adoptee has suffered from the
trauma of separation from his or
her birthmother and family of
origin.
An adoption search and reunion is
only part of the process necessary
for those who were separated from
their birthfamily to heal. This
book helps in completing the
healing process. Unfortunately,
those affected by an adoption need
to work on their issues through
self-help support groups and books
as there are very few mental
health professionals who
understand the affect of the
adoption experience on the adopted
person and birthmother. This book
helps fill that gap.
"Adoption Healing" is not just for
adoptees. Birthparents and
adoptive parents can learn a great
deal about what their child has
endured through adoption, and ways
in which they can help their
child, whether a youngster or
adult. Therapists can develop a
treatment protocol for their
adopted clients.
I have been waiting for a book
like this since I started working
with adoptees and birthmothers 14
years ago as a post-adoption
emotional support group leader. It
will help me help others.
Additionally, it will help me deal
with my own trauma of being
adopted at birth in 1950.
Although, my reunion is years past
(and a "good" one), I plan to go
back through the book chapter by
chapter and do the exercises. JUST
A QUICK READ HAS ALREADY BEGUN TO
EFFECT MY EMOTIONS
An adopted man from
New York:
This
a a magnificent book that will help
everyone effected by adoption. It is
particularly valuable for adoptive
parents, to give them essential
information about the children they
love. The book exposes the myths about
adoption and reveals the facts that
everyone involved needs to know. This
book offers the opportunity to help
millions of people and I hope it is a
great success. BUY TEN COPIES, NOT
ONE, AND GIVE THEM TO THOSE WHO THEY
WILL HELP.
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